We all know how hard being a mum is. The everyday battles to get the kids dressed, fed and out the door for anything. Whether it be school, day care, or grocery shopping, as mums there is always something that needs to be done.
Yet we don’t get the chance to appreciate our mums when we a young. We take everything they do for granted. I keep hearing my mum’s voice come out of me when I’m talking to my kids all the time. And it is now that I realise that, just how hard it was for my mum.
My mother was the main caretaker of the three of us from when I was 11. She worked full time, had two kids in primary school and my older sister in high school. My grandparents would pick the three of us up, and feed us when my mum had to work late. This was how we lived. I never gave it a second thought.
As I got older and headed into high school, I started to notice all the things I was missing out on. In primary school, I never had play dates after school, as I went to after school care. Then when I started going to high school, I would have to pick up my brother from primary school and bring him home.
I didn’t realise it at the time, but my mum was working so hard, just to be able to buy groceries. I remember being a shit of a teenager and yelling at mum because I was so hard done by. We would have screaming matches about the stupidest of things.
It wasn’t until I had my daughter I realised the heartache, pain and grief I had caused my mum for so many years.
Though it has still taken me a few more to understand what she was saying to me all those years.
‘You don’t know how much I do for you kids.’
And this is the same thing I find myself repeating to my own kids.
They don’t know. They won’t know. Until they get there themselves.
And so I talk to my friends about it. I talk to complete strangers, mother’s I meet standing in line at a coffee shop.
See as mother’s we share a bond. We know how tough it is. We can look at another mother, across a shopping centre, fighting with their toddler, or teenager, and smile knowingly in support.
So why not make a Mums day? Why not show her YOU know everything she is doing for her kids. Reward her as you know she would reward you, just for being a mum. Send her a gift for Mother’s Day. Because isn’t that what Mother’s Day is all about?
Recognising what Mums do, every other day of the year.