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The conversation edition.

Welcome back to The Crazy Mummy Blog, and our Everyday Mindfulness series, written by guest blogger Danielle Tinkler from Once Upon A Violet 

In this edition, we bring you some everyday ideas to get a little bit of that old thing called “conversation” back into your life. Interesting adult conversation is something that all of us mummies admit to missing out on – but it doesn’t have to be that way. A little bit of conscious, and mindful effort can get you away from the nappy talk – and back into your old frame of mind for a while.


Get (a little bit) on top of current affairs and events.

Sometimes with all of the stresses involved in everyday life, you tend to not notice what is going on outside your own little bubble. Now I’m not saying that you have to read every paper, and catch every news feed throughout the day – but just listen to some of the top stories every now and then. Learn a little more about what is going on in the world, both the good and the bad, the happy and the sad, local and overseas. It will broaden your conversation with others, and make for much more interesting chit-chat with your partner and friends too – not just the usual, mundane natter about what the kids are doing.

Learn a new skill – at least one new thing every 12 months.

I have incorporated this into my life since I was a crazy teen… But it keeps things fresh. Some of my antics have been a little weird such as learning to fire twirl, a course on crystal healing, becoming a DJ, and doing a face-painting course for kids birthday parties (this is actually quite a handy skill to have to be honest, as what child doesn’t love a face painter?.?) – to the little more subdued including jewellery making, yoga, learning how to have a baby, a small business course, learning how to build a website, writing, blogging etc….

Yes I admit – I do like to be creative, so I have no troubles coming up with ideas for this one, but all you have to do is simply go through your local community college brochure for ideas that you could try. You Tube is also a great source for the online learning and self-teaching of the weird and wonderful – Just ask my brother. I would love to try photography, and hula hooping in the future.

Date night.

Try for at least one night a month to get out and about (one-on-one) with your partner – or if not your partner, then a good mate. Here is where the suggestions above can come into play, as it gives you some positive feelings and plenty of conversation and new topics to chat about.

Practice passiveness.

Not all of the time – just some of the time. Tone yourself (and your opinions) down a bit, and let others take the lead. Let other people in your life take control and make some decisions for a change.

I have a terrible habit of always “putting my two cents in”. Be it where I think my husband should park the car, the best way to cook something, or even how to hang the washing out to “my specifications”. But do you know what? In the end it doesn’t really matter.

By putting my two cents in and simply telling others what they should do, I can be perceived as a complete nag – so sometimes it is just better to keep my mouth shut. Now I am not saying that I have turned myself into a Stepford Wife or anything, but I have definitely been making an effort to let others find their own way…. Life doesn’t always have to be the way I would do it.

If my husband struggles and seems to take the longer way around – so be it. He will get there in the end, and will probably be happier for it.

Although this technique might sound like the opposite of conversation, by giving someone else the opportunity to take the lead it might actually open up the conversation floodgates.

If you are experiencing a stressful situation, then try to free yourself from your own unnecessary judgements. Take a look at your thoughts and try to see what is really happening here. Break each thought down to the actual reality, and you will soon see that the situation really isn’t such a big problem at all. It is what it is… And it doesn’t have to be as bad as you think. When you take your judgements out of it, you also take away the drama and emotion out of the situation – so it should be much easier to get yourself back on track.

It is reality, but it is only a moment, and it will pass.

Be thankful.

You are reading this right now – so on that fact alone you have good eyesight. You are educated and are able to read the words. You have access to the internet, and you must be using some sort of device to use the internet – so you must have a comfortable enough bank account to pay the bills. Chances are you have a child or two, three, four… (Well you are reading Crazy Mummy right now, so that’s obvious)…. And so on and so on…..

No matter how down you feel, you can always look around you and break it down to its upmost reality. Just as described in the previous point, and be thankful that you have the insight to see it for what it really is.

Dani xo


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About Dani

Dani is a thirty (something) wife, and mother of one. She is a jewellery designer, a small business owner, a freelance writer, and also a paediatric ICU nurse – so a bit of a mixed bag of skills really.

She tries to navigate life balancing her creative spirit vs her stubborn streak, by being mindful of her own thoughts & behaviours – having learned long ago that this is probably the only thing in life that she actually can control. And has since spent the rest of her time simply trying to roll with it…. A task that is much easier said than done!

A self-confessed Instagram junkie, based in the eastern suburbs of Sydney. Her favourite things include power walking, window shopping, coffee & red wine – depending on the time of day that is!

Read more from Dani at Onceuponaviolet.com 

Check out her jewellery at honeydewandviolet.com.au 

It is so important to get a bit of a reality check at times, and that is exactly what ‘mindfulness’ is – It is a reality check, with a positive vibe.

So join us here on The Crazy Mummy Blog for our 3-part Everyday Mindfullness series written by our delightful guest blogger, Danielle Tinkler  – the voice behind of the up-and-coming blog, Once Upon A Violet.


You don’t have to practice all of these, every day. But by occasionally adding some of these in, some of the time– you can create yourself a heightened sense of happy, with even the most mundane of tasks…

Here are a few thought provoking tips on how you can get the most out of the little things in life.

1. Get up early. 

Earlier than usual that is (and earlier than the rest of your household) and make yourself a cuppa, and sit down to do something you really enjoy – in total peace and quiet.

2. Take a long walk. 

Get out and about , and around your neighbourhood at least once a week. Marvel at the gorgeous parks and gardens. See what others are doing to their houses. Make a note of local personalities in your area – and start saying hello to them.

Incorporate this into part your exercise routine, and you are winning on 3 levels – Mindfulness, community awareness, and exercise.

3. Think small.

Challenge yourself to NOT shop at the big chain supermarkets for a while. Be it one week, two weeks, or the whole month. Shop only from the small businesses including the fruiterer, fishmonger, butcher, deli, baker, and corner store.

You will be amazed in the difference in quality, you may even save money (by buying only the things you actually need), and your body will thank you for it due to the fewer amount of processed foods and “handy packs”. And the fact that you are shopping local, helps the small businesses within your community. Its feel good all round!

4. Let someone win an argument. 

I know this one sounds odd, but the feeling you get from diffusing tension in your world can be truly amazing. The prime example – a fight with your partner or loved one. Come on, I know we all can do it!

When someone you love starts to “kick-off” and you feel an argument brewing, take a deep breath, nod your head, and simply validate what they are saying. Most people when they “kick-off” about something really only want their issues to be heard, and have their feelings acknowledged. Imagine their surprise when they start to rant, and suddenly you agree with them, and let them run with it… They won’t know where to go with it from there, and the tension will start to diffuse. World War III might be avoided, and a happy household will be restored. Try it. I dare you.

5. Learn people’s names.

Especially in and around your community. Like Bob – the old fellow from down the road from me who has created the most beautiful peace park you will ever see, on just a little bit of council land. Or Lucy and Jamie who run the tiny corner store. Doris who runs the best café I know, Lester in the post office, and Vince – my FedEx guy.

People are what make a community. People give it spirit. Learning each other’s names is just the start of bringing our neighbours together. Team this point with number 2& 3.

Well I hope these few little tips can bring a smile to your face when you go about your everyday business. It’s not hard to be mindful – because at the end of the day, it’s only about being aware of your surroundings, and appreciating the environment that you have.

Enjoy!  Dani  xo


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Dani is a thirty (something) wife, and mother of one. She is a jewellery designer, a small business owner, a freelance writer, and also a paediatric ICU nurse – so a bit of a mixed bag of skills really. She tries to navigate life balancing her creative spirit vs her stubborn streak, by being mindful of her own thoughts & behaviours – having learned long ago that this is probably the only thing in life that she actually can control. And has since spent the rest of her time simply trying to roll with it…. A task that is much easier said than done!

A self-confessed Instagram junkie, based in the eastern suburbs of Sydney. Her favourite things include power walking, window shopping, coffee & red wine – depending on the time of day that is!

Read more from Dani at Onceuponaviolet.com

Check out her jewellery at honeydewandviolet.com.au

Any one who knows me, knows I like my coffee.

But boy, am I all over the place… My routine has been screwed up a bit lately. And my body can tell.

My usual routine is get up, eat breakfast with the kids – hopefully just after 6.00am (although this morning it was 5.38am), get the kids dressed, shower (if I have time), pack bags and send them out the door by 7.00am to before school care and kindy with their dad, as he heads to work.

Once I am showered and decent (although just getting showered some mornings is enough), I will pop out to my local corner shop and buy a coffee. I then return home to start the day in front of my computer. Although sometimes, if I know I have a lot on, I go straight to my computer and settle for a Nespresso, or a cup of tea at home.

This morning, I got up (that’s right at 5.38am), ate breakfast with the kids, went though all the usual early morning rituals, even managing to have a shower & wash my hair. The kids and my hubby went off into the world, and I sat down and got stuck into work. The next thing I know it is 9.30am and I’ve been working like it is already lunchtime.

Wow, so much had been done, I was feeling very productive. I knew I had moved my gym session to just after lunch, and so was working furiously to make up for the time later in the day that I wouldn’t be at my desk.

But as the hours went on, I started to feel ‘off’. I could feel a slight headache behind both eyes. I was tired, lethargic, and just wanted to lay down on the lounge and sleep.

My first thought was I felt this way because of my flu shot the day before. My arm was certainly reeling in pain from the needle. And so I was convinced that the change in my body was from my injection the day before.

I went to the gym, and went through my session with my personal trainer. It wasn’t until I left, that I realised I hadn’t had a coffee all day. It was now 2.30pm and as I walked into the coffee shop, I almost started salivating. Thankfully there was no line and within minutes I held my fresh cup of coffee in my hands.

As soon as I took a sip, I felt tension in my body slip away.

I didn’t feel quite as ‘sick’ from my injection any more. And boy, oh, boy did it taste good.

oh dear…. I’m not sick at all.

Next time, I think I’ll just look at feeding my addiction, before claiming I’m getting the flu. If coffee doesn’t fix it – I must be sick.

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