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huffingtonpost.com – 30th March, 2017

I don’t know how you finish your day job and then rush home to start your other, harder, more demanding job.

Dear Working Mom,

I don’t know how you do it.

We’ve all been tickled recently by the hilarious BBC interview that went so very wrong when a toddler and baby came running into the room while their dad was on Skype being interviewed about democracy in South Korea. It was my favourite YouTube moment of the year ― until a few days later, when a friend reposted this on Facebook, a spoof of what it would have been like if it had happened to a woman. A working mom. And the reason I laughed so hard is that it so absolutely could have been true.

But actually, it’s kind of not funny.

Because working mom, I don’t know how you do it.

I don’t know how you get up in the mornings and get not only your small people looking presentable, but yourself as well. Hair, make-up, clothes-that-do-not-fall-into-the-Activewear-category, grown-up shoes… but you do.

I don’t know how you make breakfasts and packed lunches, and get small people to sit down and eat said breakfasts, while simultaneously preparing yourself mentally for whatever tasks are waiting for you when you get to your desk… but you do.

I don’t know how you manage to do the school run, administering that all-important “one last kiss,” and then haul yourself across town (or sometimes even further) to wherever work is, and arrive on time… but you do.

I don’t know how you field meetings and pediatrician appointments (both of which could be moved at any given time), sick kids and conference calls, and the eye-rolls of those who don’t know better when you absolutely have to leave at 5 pm (I hear the voices only half-joking: “Oh, half day today?”)… but you do.

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We came across these interesting fact sheets addressing commonly held concerns regarding vaccinations, as mothers have you really looked into why we vaccinate, is it safe, what are the side effects if any and why certain ages for each shot/s?

Click on links to download each fact sheet.

How are vaccines shown to be safe?

How do vaccines a­ffect immunity?

What about autism?

What is in vaccines?

Why is the schedule the way it is?

Today is back to school for my daughter, back to kindy for my son, and back to work for me & hubby.

I think we were all a little sheepish today. Daylight savings has us in a mini fog, and this heat is adding to the tiredness. Day 4 of plus 30 degree temps in Sydney. Just unheard of for this time of year.

So back to the grind for the four of us.

I’m late writing this morning as i had a catch up session at the gym today. I missed last weeks due to the sickness in our home and I only remembered as I was falling asleep last night that I had planned to go today. I woke to my son telling me he had wet the bed. Our bed. He had crept in during the night (a habit he had gotten into whilst he was sick) and although he had been doing so well for the last few weeks, this morning he must have been extra tired and just did not wake up in time.

It was 5.45am. My response was to just get up with him and put on the shower. I woke my hubby who groaned unhappily, but he was due to get up at 6.00am so what did it matter. Doesn’t it feel better to wake up before your alarm anyway – so that you are not startled from your sleep?

See things like that don’t bother me. I don’t make a fuss with my son as i don’t want him to be upset about something that happens to everyone. I just get up and get on with the job.

He showered, and dressed for kindy, ate breakfast as I made his sisters lunch. I actually felt like I was in control this morning. I even managed to get the kids off to before school care & kindy with just enough time for me to make it to my training session.

And what a beautiful morning to arrive at Cronulla at the gym.

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Chatting to my trainer, I told him about how hubby and i have started our eating clean program, to kick start my mood. I know that not eating well affects my brain and so now we are working on that together.

The session was good, and then as we finished I jumped on the scales… I had put on 2kgs in 2 weeks. There is that comfort eating I knew I had been doing. I knew I felt disgusting, and now the scales had confirmed it. I had not been this heavy since I first started at the gym – back when Ryder was only 9 weeks old. And whilst I don’t put pressure on myself to be ultra skinny, I do know my ‘happy’ weight range and I was 4kgs above that.

I have to stop pretending that I don’t care about my weight. I do. And I know at the moment, the fact I can’t fit into any of my shorts from last summer that I am holding that pain inside. So forgive me for wearing my #activewear to work, but it is all that fits me right now.

And it’s hit me – I was in a bikini in front of my neighbours yesterday. Oh gees, what a fat, white mess.  Mind you a did put the disclaimer in before jumping in the pool that I was a fat, white mess… so at least I pre-warned them. I’m seriously pale – fluro even at the moment. Like my skin is allergic to the sun. Guess I need to leave the house more. *sigh*

I know that to feel better about myself I will have to put some effort in. But I have been struggling to exercise without knee pain. (More on that story later, I’m not yet ready to delve deeper there. Though I will get it out – as I’m sure it will relieve me.)

If I am eating right, I hope to have more energy and feel like trying low impact exercising. Mind you the garden work I did the other day I have claimed as my cardio for this week. Though the eating I did over the long weekend more than cancelled that out.

It’s another day today, and whilst I am feeling lighter in the head space, I still have so many doubts. Doubtful I will be able to stick to our healthy eating plan (notice I didn’t say diet? I don’t diet – as I treat it as a ongoing plan to eat healthy), doubtful I will get some exercise in, doubtful it will make a difference to my brain or my body, doubtful I am worth it.

But I have to keep on challenging those thoughts.

Well I drank 2 beers too many last night, just so I could sleep.

One of the biggest signs that my anxiety and depression are affecting me is that I can not get to sleep. Even though I feel completely exhausted at night, my brain just won’t shut off. Lack of sleep affects me really badly and I start to become emotional and overly sad.

Yesterday was no exception.

After publishing my first post I immediately felt better. Then went downhill fast. Hubby came home from the gym and we started working in the back yard, when he ducked out again to pick up some supplies from Bunnings.

I could not focus on what I needed to get done and realised I hadn’t eaten breakfast. Maybe a bit of food in my belly would help with my brain power. But I just couldn’t stomach it. My anxiety had taken my hunger away. I was half way through forcing my weetbix down when hubby returned.

He took one look at me and asked if I was ok. And I said, ‘I don’t feel well today’ as he tapped on my head in question. I nodded and then the tears started.

I have to admit I hate feeling this way. I hate being a burden, a problem. Worthless, and hopeless.

I sat there as he hugged me, and just let it be for a few moments. Then I knew I had to keep myself busy, so I got stuck into carting soil from the front driveway into the back yard. I carried on with this over the day as we worked hard in the 30 degree heat. I sweated, got stinky, realised I hadn’t put any deodorant on (something I often forget to do when feeling anxious – weird) and tried to push the thoughts out of my head.

Thoughts like how my kids would be if I wasn’t there. How they would live with the fact that their mum wasn’t around any more. Honestly speaking I never travel the path of how to go out, because I focus on how I don’t want to leave my kids behind. How I want to see them grow up, I want to see them – just see them everyday.

I’d had enough work by 4pm and rinsed off with a cold shower before popping over to one of our neighbours for a drink. The same neighbours had kindly offered to have the kids for a water play date whilst we finished off the yard work. Thank goodness for our wonderful community.

We stayed for a couple of hours, before my brain got the better of me and I had to come home. I start to feel uncomfortable, and need the comfort of home. The comfort of my lounge again. It was only early but I brought my little guy home too as he was still not well. It was not even 7pm.

I sat on the lounge and had a couple more beers whilst watching a movie, as all I wanted was to be able to fall asleep. There was no worry of that though as by the time I went to bed at 8.30 I’d had six beers and was feeling the affect.IMG_5261

I now sit here with a headache and although I’ve slept, I haven’t benefitted from it. My body instead of resting has spent the last night trying to rid my body of alcohol. And I still smell… Off to the shower to start a new day.

 

It is Saturday morning, and I have been lying to myself for weeks.

I have been in a funk for over a month, and am just sailing through the days. I have been telling myself I’m fine – but really I am coasting along. Annoyed at myself for being so boring. I get up every morning, and go through the motions. Barely scraping by. I’m not exercising enough. Not eating healthy, and turning into the person who sits on the couch at any time i’m not looking after the kids. I’ve turned to my phone & iPad to play games rather than interact with the world. I just don’t think I have anything to offer.

Farkkkkkkkk, I need to do something.

IMG_5252So here it is.

After posting photos on Facebook yesterday of my 4 year old son eating a mango – I realised at that moment we looked happy and ready for summer. But in truth, he was sick with a virus, and other than being off the lounge to eat that piece of fruit he spent the rest of the day on the lounge sleeping and dealing with a high temp.

I was lying again.

I never tell the truth on social media – or that is I never document the shitty, hard, and sometimes down right exhausting. So this month I’m changing that. I’m going to record the everyday. The bad, the ugly, the terrifying, and the normal.

Starting right now.

IMG_5256This is me. At 8.30am this morning.

And no I’m not going for a run. I’m out the back waiting for my hubby to return from the gym (yes thats right i’m on my ass again whilst everyone else is out to greet the morning) so I can help him get stuck into a day of gardening. No makeup, no filter, no professional camera, just me.

I have to push myself to just get out of the back door of my house. I feel so much more comfortable on the lounge – hiding away from everything, that even sitting outside on a nice day is a challenge at times.

I have set a challenge for myself for the rest of the month – seeing as October is Mental Health month – I’m going to tell the truth. No more sugar coating, no more ‘how happy are we’. Just real every day mental as bullshit.

No editing, no filter, just real 100% me.

So please be kind – I will be writing as I think – no revisions on my spelling, grammar or otherwise. This is words per minute.

Here goes nothing…

#mentalas #crazymummy #itsthelittlethings

Part 3 of our Everyday Mindfulness Series is all about looking after yourself.

It’s about looking after your body, your mind, your home, your looks, your own self-confidence, and your own karma. It’s about finding little ways in your life that you can concentrate on YOU, and make yourself feel good on any random day of the week – no special occasion required!

Get so involved with your cleaning and housework that it makes you sweat –

I know in the heat of summer this is not hard at all to get a sweat on, but in the winter – well, not so much. But aside from this, I am a firm believer in getting a two for one deal; so if I am going to get sweaty and dirty, then I might as well get some physical benefit from it also! So invest in a cheap pair of wrist weights and ankle weights (I know that target have some very tidy priced versions right now), and strap these to you while you do the hoovering, hanging the washing, dusting etc.

And while you are at it, try to walk EVERYWHERE, as often as you can. If your life is busy, and exercise isn’t always that easy for you to schedule in, then this tip could do you the world of good.

Remember, incidental exercise can be your friend!

Find that little bit of fabulousness, and flaunt it –

Rock your own self-confidence, and own it. Put some extra effort into your hairstyle or make-up some days. You know how good it feels to step out of the salon with your new do – well then why don’t you try to make yourself feel like that as often as you can. Take a little extra time in the morning before you leave the house with your hair. Perhaps try a new lipstick colour – or even a different fragrance. A little bit of extra fabulousness is bound to boost your confidence and put a little spring in your step for the day. Especially when other people start to notice!

Create your own karma –

Do good things for others – for no reason at all, and for nothing expected in return. I believe that Karma is not a bitch, but instead she is a princess. So be good to others, and the universe will be good to you. The law of attraction really does work – as you attract what you give out (believe me on this one!)

Treat yourself –

Treat yourself once in a while. For some reason, we ladies (especially when we become mothers) always end up putting ourselves last. Well once in a while – buy that gorgeous top you saw recently in the store window. Or get a facial, a massage, or a little treat with your coffee. Have a bath, and then sip on a nice glass of wine while you do it!

Enjoy some little treats for yourself, and you will soon begin appreciate yourself (and what you do for everyone else) so much more. You are so worth it!

Acknowledge your anxieties –

It is ok to feel anxious at times. It is normal to feel moody, or get the blues – but try not to beat yourself up over them, as this might send you further into a downward spiral. Instead, acknowledge that this is not a permanent state of being for you, and aim to get on with feeling normal again soon.

Life is not meant to be a continuous roll of perfect happiness… we need to have those ups and downs to realise what really matters to us.

I remember an old plaque that used to hang on our toilet door in my childhood home which read:

“To appreciate the heights, one has to have been to the depths”.

And it’s so true. If you have never experienced any sadness or heartaches, then how on earth would you learn to treasure those good times?

But at the end of the day, try not to let your worries or sadness consume you. Recognize them, acknowledge them, rise above them, and carry on.

And finally….

Take some time to smell the flowers –

And I mean this in both the literal, and the figurative sense. To me it means – keep your senses open to everything that comes your way, and appreciate even the littlest of things. It is the tagline of my blog Once Upon A Violet, after all!

When I walk my four year old to pre-school each day, we talk about the seasons, and what differences we take note of at certain times of the year. We notice the colour of the leaves, and what flowers are blooming at each particular time. At four years old, she has a better knowledge of horticulture than even most adults I know….

But it’s not the names of the flowers that I want her to know per se… – it’s her ability to recognise these different flowers in and around different parts of our general community (and at different times of the year) that I find the more important skill.

It shows me that she is walking around with her head high, and her eyes wide open.

It shows me that she takes notice of her world, and of what is going on in it.

It shows me that she can understand that changes will occur in life, and she is ok with that. And it shows me that she doesn’t judge what she sees, straight off – Instead she can see it for what it is, but also accept the hidden beauty that often lies within.

Wow! If only she knew the meaningfulness (and the mindfulness) of her actions!


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Dani is a thirty (something) wife and mother of one. She is a jewellery designer, small business owner, writer, and also an Intensive Care Nurse – so a bit of a mixed bag of skills really.

She tries to navigate life balancing work, creativity, and family by focusing on the powers of mindfulness and positivity. She documents her journey and what she has learned through her blog – onceuponaviolet.com

Renovation Addicts and DIY lovers with a passion for Home Design. 

Meet Belinda & Belinda, the masterminds behind Oohm.

Renovating For Profit is their specialty with over 30 personal projects between them and a love of creating a beautiful home for less. As life long friends the two Belinda’s have become accidental bloggers, as they strive to share inspirational tips and know how with their Oohm Community of Home Lovers. Find out how you too can create a beautiful home on a budget, plus learn how to renovate to increase income and equity.

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Tell us about your business 

On our blog – www.oohm.com.au – the 2 Belinda’s share tips and information about renovating for profit and decorating, creating beautiful homes on a budget.  We offer a Renovation Consultancy and an E-decor service.

Why did you start your business?

For a long time, we have both helped family and friends with property research, finding the right property at the right price, organising finance, purchasing properties, renovation advice and styling tips.  Between us (and our husbands) we have wide reaching experience in property so began by starting a Facebook page sharing tips and hints on all things related to property. Our aim was to gather home loving followers and open an online home wares store, which we will do soon.

What do you love about your work?

As lovers of interior design, home wares, beautiful architecture and all things related to property, we spend our days immersed in lovely images and interacting with our inspired tribe of home-lovers on Social Media and our blog.  We continue to run our independent property companies and renovate our own homes.  We are busy, but privileged to spend our days doing what we love.

What do you want to be known for? 

Helping others to profit from property renovations, sharing our renovation strategies, budget and design tips – designer looks at affordable prices. I have my own personal little favourites and they make me smile each morning when I see them in my kitchen. I hope to share that around. It’s all about life’s simple pleasures.

What are you aiming to achieve in the next 12 months? 

We have built some wonderful partnerships, in particular with the charity Heartfelt Homes, who we wish to support more as our business grows; also with the On The House Group, producing quality content for their readership via the “Renovation Ideas” blog.

Within 6 months – Videos on How to DIY and renovation tips plus hopefully some blog sponsorship will come our way.  As well as the launch our online shop.

Within 12 months – our goal is to be running renovation workshops and write books.   

What is the best piece of advice you have for someone starting their own business? 

Just get started sharing information about something that you love, and learn along the way.

Pay people for the things that you aren’t good at and which will take too much of your time to figure out when you could be doing more important things. Ensure everyone in your business is working to his or her strengths and surround yourself with people who share your vision and passionate commitment.  We knew a lot about renovation and property, but very little about business on the Internet and blogging. It’s been a steep learning curve, but worth every minute and it’s been fun.


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OOHM

Phone: Belinda Smith 0419 496 625   |   Belinda Westblade 0407 443 958

Email: info@oohm.com.au

Website: http://oohm.com.au

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/oohmhomewares?ref=hl

Twitter:  https://twitter.com/oohmHomewares

Instagram:  https://instagram.com/oohmhomewares/

Pinterest:  https://www.pinterest.com/oohmhomewares

Coco Motion Mumma is the business behind Karlie Cunningham-Lloyd, a fitness foodie mum who enables women to raise children that are heart-fully healthy.  

Karlie aims to inspire and motivate you to eat real food, move your body daily and dream big.  Offering wellness coaching, personal training – and even virtual PT sessions – Karlie passion is to motive others into a healthier life lived to the full.

Here we ask Karlie a few of the big questions.

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Tell us about your business?

At Coco Motion Mumma, our motto is Eat, Move, Dream. We are all about cooking, and eating, real food by providing recipes with meal options, whilst providing ways to keep active with the delivery of workout ideas and videos.

We aim to inspire women to invest in themselves, so they can reach the level of health they deserve, and as a result, be a fantastic role model to their children. This is delivered through content on our website, as well as via one-on-one and online coaching.

I am a trained Personal Development, Health and Physical Education teacher, Personal Trainer, and fully qualified Wellness Coach, but most importantly, a mum to my two children aged 6 and 4 years.

Why did you start your business? 

To inspire women and mothers to eat real food, move their bodies daily and dream big. I want them to feel fabulous and be great role models for the little people in their lives.

What do you love about your work?

I love helping others reach their health potential; watching the light bulbs go on when they can see changes in the way they see themselves; the way they look and how they change their outlook on life.

I love creating recipes and meals that are delicious, nutritious and healthy. Foods that ensure my clients never feel deprived or like their missing out.

I love training clients on how to learn and perform new movements, and transition from basic skills to more advanced. But it is amazing to hear my clients tell me they are feeling stronger and have a greater level of fitness.

What do you want to be known for? 

Being a great role model to my children. Showing them how to prepare real food, and move their bodies daily. I want to teach them how to lead healthy lives, dream big and have the confidence to go after whatever they put their minds to.

What are you aiming to achieve in the next 12 months? 

I would love to have touched more lives and shared my message. To be creating more recipe e-books, establishing an online real food movement program, running seminars and webinars for women to reach the goal of living a super smashing life. Have my Coco Crunch recipe in health food stores. As well as, coaching people in food, nutrition and wellness.

What is the best piece of advice you have for someone starting their own business? 

Be authentic and follow your passion.

COCO MOTION MUMMA

Phone: 0438 115 579

Email: karlie.cunningham@gmail.com

Website: www.cocomotionmumma.com

Instagram: https://instagram.com/cocomotionmumma

Twitter: https://twitter.com/cocomotionmumma

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/cocomotionmumma

The conversation edition.

Welcome back to The Crazy Mummy Blog, and our Everyday Mindfulness series, written by guest blogger Danielle Tinkler from Once Upon A Violet 

In this edition, we bring you some everyday ideas to get a little bit of that old thing called “conversation” back into your life. Interesting adult conversation is something that all of us mummies admit to missing out on – but it doesn’t have to be that way. A little bit of conscious, and mindful effort can get you away from the nappy talk – and back into your old frame of mind for a while.


Get (a little bit) on top of current affairs and events.

Sometimes with all of the stresses involved in everyday life, you tend to not notice what is going on outside your own little bubble. Now I’m not saying that you have to read every paper, and catch every news feed throughout the day – but just listen to some of the top stories every now and then. Learn a little more about what is going on in the world, both the good and the bad, the happy and the sad, local and overseas. It will broaden your conversation with others, and make for much more interesting chit-chat with your partner and friends too – not just the usual, mundane natter about what the kids are doing.

Learn a new skill – at least one new thing every 12 months.

I have incorporated this into my life since I was a crazy teen… But it keeps things fresh. Some of my antics have been a little weird such as learning to fire twirl, a course on crystal healing, becoming a DJ, and doing a face-painting course for kids birthday parties (this is actually quite a handy skill to have to be honest, as what child doesn’t love a face painter?.?) – to the little more subdued including jewellery making, yoga, learning how to have a baby, a small business course, learning how to build a website, writing, blogging etc….

Yes I admit – I do like to be creative, so I have no troubles coming up with ideas for this one, but all you have to do is simply go through your local community college brochure for ideas that you could try. You Tube is also a great source for the online learning and self-teaching of the weird and wonderful – Just ask my brother. I would love to try photography, and hula hooping in the future.

Date night.

Try for at least one night a month to get out and about (one-on-one) with your partner – or if not your partner, then a good mate. Here is where the suggestions above can come into play, as it gives you some positive feelings and plenty of conversation and new topics to chat about.

Practice passiveness.

Not all of the time – just some of the time. Tone yourself (and your opinions) down a bit, and let others take the lead. Let other people in your life take control and make some decisions for a change.

I have a terrible habit of always “putting my two cents in”. Be it where I think my husband should park the car, the best way to cook something, or even how to hang the washing out to “my specifications”. But do you know what? In the end it doesn’t really matter.

By putting my two cents in and simply telling others what they should do, I can be perceived as a complete nag – so sometimes it is just better to keep my mouth shut. Now I am not saying that I have turned myself into a Stepford Wife or anything, but I have definitely been making an effort to let others find their own way…. Life doesn’t always have to be the way I would do it.

If my husband struggles and seems to take the longer way around – so be it. He will get there in the end, and will probably be happier for it.

Although this technique might sound like the opposite of conversation, by giving someone else the opportunity to take the lead it might actually open up the conversation floodgates.

If you are experiencing a stressful situation, then try to free yourself from your own unnecessary judgements. Take a look at your thoughts and try to see what is really happening here. Break each thought down to the actual reality, and you will soon see that the situation really isn’t such a big problem at all. It is what it is… And it doesn’t have to be as bad as you think. When you take your judgements out of it, you also take away the drama and emotion out of the situation – so it should be much easier to get yourself back on track.

It is reality, but it is only a moment, and it will pass.

Be thankful.

You are reading this right now – so on that fact alone you have good eyesight. You are educated and are able to read the words. You have access to the internet, and you must be using some sort of device to use the internet – so you must have a comfortable enough bank account to pay the bills. Chances are you have a child or two, three, four… (Well you are reading Crazy Mummy right now, so that’s obvious)…. And so on and so on…..

No matter how down you feel, you can always look around you and break it down to its upmost reality. Just as described in the previous point, and be thankful that you have the insight to see it for what it really is.

Dani xo


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About Dani

Dani is a thirty (something) wife, and mother of one. She is a jewellery designer, a small business owner, a freelance writer, and also a paediatric ICU nurse – so a bit of a mixed bag of skills really.

She tries to navigate life balancing her creative spirit vs her stubborn streak, by being mindful of her own thoughts & behaviours – having learned long ago that this is probably the only thing in life that she actually can control. And has since spent the rest of her time simply trying to roll with it…. A task that is much easier said than done!

A self-confessed Instagram junkie, based in the eastern suburbs of Sydney. Her favourite things include power walking, window shopping, coffee & red wine – depending on the time of day that is!

Read more from Dani at Onceuponaviolet.com 

Check out her jewellery at honeydewandviolet.com.au 

I have been hiding out over the last few months. Hiding behind my computer. Not wanting to write, not wanting to bore you with – stuff.

So I shut down.

And began to suffer.

I’ve had a few months of loss and sadness. A few months of picking myself back up again. And now, I’ve remembered just how much I missed my writing.

My outlet for these voices in my head.

I have thrown myself into working on my client’s businesses and not spent any time on my own. Let alone my mental or physical health.

And so I’m forcing myself back into the writing game. Where my writing doesn’t have to be perfect – but I just need to get shit out there. Again.

So here goes…